Boundaries

We all understand the basic concept of boundaries. Some people are allowed in and some people are not. I find that as you learn and grow throughout life, boundary maintenance becomes a fine art. Here's an analogy on boundaries which can help facilitate boundary setting and maintenance. Imagine yourself as consisting of three houses-each house nested within the other-similar to Russian nested dolls. The largest house is the house all your acquaintances have a key to. The information shared in this house is fairly trivial. It is information that is not deeply intimate or personal. It is mostly surface-level information. The second largest house nested in the largest house is the house your closest friends and supportive family have access to. This house contains more intimate and personal information. Access to this house requires a certain level of trust and commitment from people in order for them to obtain a key. If they break this trust you take back the key. And finally, the third house. The smallest house nested in the other two The third house is a house just for you. It's a house you can fill with light or feelings of peace or whatever you like. Perhaps this is where you have your dialogue with the Universe or God. This is a special place just for you. You are the only one with a key and you cannot make copies of this key for any other person. This is JUST for you. Creating and maintaining these boundaries are important to creating the kind of life you can live with necessary peace and energy/love available for yourself. Practice discernment and boundary maintenance responsibly.